In an effort to mix up my sex life and keep things interesting, I have decided (and Duckie gleefully agreed) to undertake the challenge of completing all 20 moves in the "20 Sex Moves for Every Mood" article in the March Cosmpolitan. Hopefully I can persuade you to take your sex life in your own hands and never settle into a routine. Wish me luck!
15. Patient: When you want to draw out the experience (or if you've got a streak of masochism in you), try stop-and-go sex. How it works: Bring yourselves to the brink, then stop. Don't move, don't grind, don't do anything, for at least 30 seconds. Then resume your activities, and repeat the stop-and-go two more times. Delaying your orgasm makes the release feel superhero powerful.
Duckie and I were camping so naturally, that means we were having sex. What better time to have long, drawn-out sex than while out in the wilderness with nothing else to do? (That reminds me of this hilarious SNL Weekend Update clip about the effects of Hurricane Sandy [skip to :26])
I didn't tell Duckie I wanted to do this until, well, the exact moment I wanted to do it. I admit, I might have scared him when I said, mid-sex, "Hey, let's play a game!"
This "game" wasn't exactly dominos at your grandparents house, but man was it exciting. We did the stop-and-go three times. It was so hot to hear Duckie tell me "Okay, okay stop!" whenever he got close. And I got to sexily count to 30 in his ear as we lay there tortured.
"Superhero powerful" was the perfect way to describe the consequent orgasm (kudos to Cosmo). This "game" is perfect for the couple that tends to finish too quickly or find themselves going through the motions of sex.
Have you tried this move or others like it? What was your experience like? I'd love to hear your feedback!
Love much,
Lavender
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Tuesday, March 19, 2013
Cosmo Challenge: Stressed
In an effort to mix up my sex life and keep things interesting, I have decided (and Duckie gleefully agreed) to undertake the challenge of completing all 20 moves in the "20 Sex Moves for Every Mood" article in the March Cosmpolitan. Hopefully I can persuade you to take your sex life in your own hands and never settle into a routine. Wish me luck!
13. Stressed: Orgasms are tension busters, so after a hard day at work, pull your guy close and whisper, "All I want is for you to make me come." Hello. When there's a problem, men like to fix it, so you're making him feel like a total stud while getting yours at the same time.
Stressed, yes. After a hard day at work, no. The situation was a tad stressful but not because of any exterior stresses; the sex itself had become the source of stress.
Now, this may come as a shock to some of y'all, but I am blessed with a boyfriend that gets me...there...every. single. time. So imagine my surprise as Duckie and I were making love on my balcony (this part was fun—try it!) and I couldn't reach that peak of pleasure.
I figured this was just about as stressful a situation as any for Duckie, so I did what Cosmo instructed. I whispered in his ear, "I just want you to make me come." To which he replied, "Oh I do too!"
Unfortunately, it didn't happen for me that night. I'm not sure what the problem was. It's literally happened for me every other time I've had sex with Duckie. Any suggestions? Leave me a comment or two, would ya?
Love much,
Lavender
Tuesday, March 5, 2013
Cosmo Challenge: Relaxed
In an effort to mix up my sex life and keep things interesting, I have decided (and Duckie gleefully agreed) to undertake the challenge of completing all 20 moves in the "20 Sex Moves for Every Mood" article in the March Cosmpolitan. Hopefully I can persuade you to take your sex life in your own hands and never settle into a routine. Wish me luck!
14. Relaxed: Slip into a hot bubble bath together. Sit between his legs, with your back against his chest. He can reach around and give you some manual loving while you grind up against him (gently). Water will definitely slosh on your floor, but you're Zen, babe, so cést la vie.
Duckie and I tried this directly after our mutual rub-downs (see Cosmo Challenge: Romantic) so we were already veryyy relaxed. I must have had some sort of goofy smile on my face as we moved from the bedroom to the bathtub.
I poured some aphrodisiac bath salts and bubble bath into the tub and we slipped in. Both of us are tall and my bathtub is not but this position of me with my back on his chest worked great.
We didn't last long in the tub and didn't do much touching either. We were both just so relaxed and enjoying the intimacy of the night. But the bath definitely added to the romanticism of our night together and made it about more than just sex.
Love much,
Lavender
14. Relaxed: Slip into a hot bubble bath together. Sit between his legs, with your back against his chest. He can reach around and give you some manual loving while you grind up against him (gently). Water will definitely slosh on your floor, but you're Zen, babe, so cést la vie.
Duckie and I tried this directly after our mutual rub-downs (see Cosmo Challenge: Romantic) so we were already veryyy relaxed. I must have had some sort of goofy smile on my face as we moved from the bedroom to the bathtub.
I poured some aphrodisiac bath salts and bubble bath into the tub and we slipped in. Both of us are tall and my bathtub is not but this position of me with my back on his chest worked great.
We didn't last long in the tub and didn't do much touching either. We were both just so relaxed and enjoying the intimacy of the night. But the bath definitely added to the romanticism of our night together and made it about more than just sex.
Love much,
Lavender
Sunday, February 24, 2013
Cosmo Challenge: Cuddly
In an effort to mix up my sex life and keep things interesting, I have decided (and Duckie gleefully agreed) to undertake the challenge of completing all 20 moves in the "20 Sex Moves for Every Mood" article in the March Cosmpolitan. Hopefully I can persuade you to take your sex life in your own hands and never settle into a routine. Wish me luck!
1. Cuddly: When you just want to snuggle up, lie with your head on his chest, and trace cute little messages across his torso ("So happy/"You're hot"). Then let him reciprocate by writing his own love note across your back.
I'm writing this as Duckie is cuddled up with the blankets in my bed looking so freaking adorable, as always. This is usually the trend. I wake up before him and he gets to sleep in while I get to gaze upon his adorable sleepiness.
I absolutely love snuggling with Duckie. He is so good at it (yes, it's possible to be good at snuggling!) and he loves doing it. Last night, after a wildly successful sexy-time (see: Cosmo Challenge: Sexy), we lay there catching our breaths and soaking in the endorphins. I thought this would be the perfect time to try out some hand-written body love notes.
One thing you have to know about Duckie: he is the most ticklish person I have ever met. I can't even place a hand on his stomach without him giggling and shoving me off him (in the most loving way, of course). His ticklishness is especially intense when his body is so sensitive during and after sex.
I place one finger on his chest to start doodling and he goes crazy! So, naturally, I continue because if you can't tickle-attack your boyfriend, who else can you tickle-attack? And he is just so dang cute when he giggles.
Very carefully, I manage to trace "I love fucking you" on his chest. To which he countered on my chest with..."so hard."
We're so romantic, aren't we?
Is your partner ticklish? Are they the kind of person who gets mad when you tickle them or they get playful? What sort of lovey-dovey post-sex rituals do you and your partner share? Let me know with a comment or two!
Now if you will excuse me, I have a sleepy Duckie to snuggle with.
Love much,
Lavender
1. Cuddly: When you just want to snuggle up, lie with your head on his chest, and trace cute little messages across his torso ("So happy/"You're hot"). Then let him reciprocate by writing his own love note across your back.
I'm writing this as Duckie is cuddled up with the blankets in my bed looking so freaking adorable, as always. This is usually the trend. I wake up before him and he gets to sleep in while I get to gaze upon his adorable sleepiness.
I absolutely love snuggling with Duckie. He is so good at it (yes, it's possible to be good at snuggling!) and he loves doing it. Last night, after a wildly successful sexy-time (see: Cosmo Challenge: Sexy), we lay there catching our breaths and soaking in the endorphins. I thought this would be the perfect time to try out some hand-written body love notes.
One thing you have to know about Duckie: he is the most ticklish person I have ever met. I can't even place a hand on his stomach without him giggling and shoving me off him (in the most loving way, of course). His ticklishness is especially intense when his body is so sensitive during and after sex.
I place one finger on his chest to start doodling and he goes crazy! So, naturally, I continue because if you can't tickle-attack your boyfriend, who else can you tickle-attack? And he is just so dang cute when he giggles.
Very carefully, I manage to trace "I love fucking you" on his chest. To which he countered on my chest with..."so hard."
We're so romantic, aren't we?
Is your partner ticklish? Are they the kind of person who gets mad when you tickle them or they get playful? What sort of lovey-dovey post-sex rituals do you and your partner share? Let me know with a comment or two!
Now if you will excuse me, I have a sleepy Duckie to snuggle with.
Love much,
Lavender
Cosmo Challenge: Sexy
In an effort to mix up my sex life and keep things interesting, I have decided (and Duckie gleefully agreed) to undertake the challenge of completing all 20 moves in the "20 Sex Moves for Every Mood" article in the March Cosmpolitan. Hopefully I can persuade you to take your sex life in your own hands and never settle into a routine. Wish me luck!
2. Sexy: There are days when you are on: Your hair is behaving brilliantly, and you're owning your skinny jeans––and those are the days to show off the goods. Straddle him while he's lying on his back on the bed, and lean back so your elbows are resting behind you. Your body should form a semi-bridge. From here, let him do the work. He can thrust up while getting an eyeful of your rocking bod. It's a total rush knowing that he's taking in every inch of you and loving every moment of it.
Once I read this move, I knew that I wanted to do it as soon as possible. Everything about it works for Duckie and I. We both love when I'm on top, we both love when he gets to do most of the work, and he loves when he gets an eyeful of me mid-sex (and I'm learning to love that part too!).
We've gotten into a bit of a routine where I was doing about 90% of the work during sex. It just works for both of us–until I get worn out and the action subsides!
So I did as Cosmo asked: I climbed up on top, bent as far back as I could and let him do as he pleased. Oh and pleased we both were. We've done similar positions but it was usually me thrusting so this was a welcome change for both us. It felt absolutely amazing.
And good ole reliable Duckie did what every girl silently prays their partner will do in such exposed positions; he didn't ignore my clit. In fact, he went straight to it once we got going. I was in heaven. And from the look on his face, so was he!
Unfortunately, after a while, he got tired and I got impatient so I ended up doing some of the work myself (but I didn't mind, especially since his fingers were working so hard).
There were a few moments when I became self-conscious at being so exposed. We had a lamp on so his eyes had full access to everything I've got. But combined with everything that was going on downstairs, and Duckie's repeated assurances going through my head that I'm not, in fact, a huge whale with tiny boobs, I didn't even have time to linger on the self-conscious thoughts.
What do you think? Is this a position you'd try? Is it mostly you doing the work or your partner? Do you feel secure enough in your body that you'd allow yourself to be so exposed? Let me know with a comment or two!
Love much,
Lavender
2. Sexy: There are days when you are on: Your hair is behaving brilliantly, and you're owning your skinny jeans––and those are the days to show off the goods. Straddle him while he's lying on his back on the bed, and lean back so your elbows are resting behind you. Your body should form a semi-bridge. From here, let him do the work. He can thrust up while getting an eyeful of your rocking bod. It's a total rush knowing that he's taking in every inch of you and loving every moment of it.
Once I read this move, I knew that I wanted to do it as soon as possible. Everything about it works for Duckie and I. We both love when I'm on top, we both love when he gets to do most of the work, and he loves when he gets an eyeful of me mid-sex (and I'm learning to love that part too!).
We've gotten into a bit of a routine where I was doing about 90% of the work during sex. It just works for both of us–until I get worn out and the action subsides!
So I did as Cosmo asked: I climbed up on top, bent as far back as I could and let him do as he pleased. Oh and pleased we both were. We've done similar positions but it was usually me thrusting so this was a welcome change for both us. It felt absolutely amazing.
And good ole reliable Duckie did what every girl silently prays their partner will do in such exposed positions; he didn't ignore my clit. In fact, he went straight to it once we got going. I was in heaven. And from the look on his face, so was he!
Unfortunately, after a while, he got tired and I got impatient so I ended up doing some of the work myself (but I didn't mind, especially since his fingers were working so hard).
There were a few moments when I became self-conscious at being so exposed. We had a lamp on so his eyes had full access to everything I've got. But combined with everything that was going on downstairs, and Duckie's repeated assurances going through my head that I'm not, in fact, a huge whale with tiny boobs, I didn't even have time to linger on the self-conscious thoughts.
What do you think? Is this a position you'd try? Is it mostly you doing the work or your partner? Do you feel secure enough in your body that you'd allow yourself to be so exposed? Let me know with a comment or two!
Love much,
Lavender
Cosmo Challenge: Generous
In an effort to mix up my sex life and keep things interesting, I have decided (and Duckie gleefully agreed) to undertake the challenge of completing all 20 moves in the "20 Sex Moves for Every Mood" article in the March Cosmpolitan. Hopefully I can persuade you to take your sex life in your own hands and never settle into a routine. Wish me luck!
17. Generous: 'Tis better to give than to receive, right? "Yes!" says every boyfriend, ever. When the giving mood strikes, tell him to lie back and relax, then roll a condom on and start going down on him. After a few minutes, take it off and continue. Going from sheathed to bare-skinned suddenly will make your mouth and tongue feel so much more intense than usual.
Duckie and I were a bit apprehensive about this one at first. I had never had a condom in my mouth and he had never gotten a blow job with one on. After I explained to him that I was going to take the condom off after a little bit, he was a bit more at ease.
We didn't have any flavored condoms or anything of that sort so I was left with that awful latex taste that stays in your mouth for way too long. Once I got over the initial discomfort, I found myself trying extra hard with my skills so to make sure he could feel them through the condom.
After about three minutes of that, I decided enough was enough and I took the condom off. And would you look at that, it took about a minute for him to finish.
When I asked him how it was, he was speechless! He does this thing after sex where he just nods and smiles to convey his appreciation. I asked him if it was better after I took the condom off compared to if I had just started bare-skinned in the first place and he answered with an affirmative.
I can't imagine using this method every time I'm in the giving mood; the taste is just awful and too many times may de-sensitize Duckie to it. But if I ever feel like mixing it up a bit, I have a new trick in my sexual repertoire (I'll be sure to pick up some flavored condoms for the occasion!).
Have any of you tried this? Was it a success or failure? Let me know with a comment or two!
Love much,
Lavender
17. Generous: 'Tis better to give than to receive, right? "Yes!" says every boyfriend, ever. When the giving mood strikes, tell him to lie back and relax, then roll a condom on and start going down on him. After a few minutes, take it off and continue. Going from sheathed to bare-skinned suddenly will make your mouth and tongue feel so much more intense than usual.
Duckie and I were a bit apprehensive about this one at first. I had never had a condom in my mouth and he had never gotten a blow job with one on. After I explained to him that I was going to take the condom off after a little bit, he was a bit more at ease.
We didn't have any flavored condoms or anything of that sort so I was left with that awful latex taste that stays in your mouth for way too long. Once I got over the initial discomfort, I found myself trying extra hard with my skills so to make sure he could feel them through the condom.
After about three minutes of that, I decided enough was enough and I took the condom off. And would you look at that, it took about a minute for him to finish.
When I asked him how it was, he was speechless! He does this thing after sex where he just nods and smiles to convey his appreciation. I asked him if it was better after I took the condom off compared to if I had just started bare-skinned in the first place and he answered with an affirmative.
I can't imagine using this method every time I'm in the giving mood; the taste is just awful and too many times may de-sensitize Duckie to it. But if I ever feel like mixing it up a bit, I have a new trick in my sexual repertoire (I'll be sure to pick up some flavored condoms for the occasion!).
Have any of you tried this? Was it a success or failure? Let me know with a comment or two!
Love much,
Lavender
Sunday, February 17, 2013
Cosmo Challenge: Take-Charge
In an effort to mix up my sex life and keep things interesting, I have decided (and Duckie gleefully agreed) to undertake the challenge of completing all 20 moves in the "20 Sex Moves for Every Mood" article in the March Cosmpolitan. Hopefully I can persuade you to take your sex life in your own hands and never settle into a routine. Wish me luck!
11. Take-Charge: Climb on top of him, and pin his wrists against the bed. Holding on to his arms gives you leverage so you can really go for it, and it adds to the you0in-control vibe. The diagonal angle also provides more contact between his pelvic bone and your clitoris, upping the orgasmic potential.-Cosmo
I attempted this one first because, well, it was the only one I could think of in the moment. When I had the idea to do this challenge, I imagined sitting in bed with Duckie, reading over the 20 moves and deciding together which one we wanted to try. I realized I didn't have the magazine with me as we settled into bedroom-mode (and I don't mean brushing our teeth!) on Saturday night.
So, as the light clicked off and we went at it, my first thought was to grab him by the wrists and take-charge. I will admit, this was a lot easier said than done. I'm a very handsy girl and I like to move my hands up and down his body while being intimate so I kept having to pull my hands away from his wrists.
Also, Duckie has very long arms and my body is just not long enough to reach all the way up his outstretched arms. That is if I want the downstairs action to continue, which I did, of course. All in all, the move lasted about three minutes before we tried something else.
But hey, at least we tried it? Any tips on how to make this move more do-able?
Love much,
Lavender
11. Take-Charge: Climb on top of him, and pin his wrists against the bed. Holding on to his arms gives you leverage so you can really go for it, and it adds to the you0in-control vibe. The diagonal angle also provides more contact between his pelvic bone and your clitoris, upping the orgasmic potential.-Cosmo
I attempted this one first because, well, it was the only one I could think of in the moment. When I had the idea to do this challenge, I imagined sitting in bed with Duckie, reading over the 20 moves and deciding together which one we wanted to try. I realized I didn't have the magazine with me as we settled into bedroom-mode (and I don't mean brushing our teeth!) on Saturday night.
So, as the light clicked off and we went at it, my first thought was to grab him by the wrists and take-charge. I will admit, this was a lot easier said than done. I'm a very handsy girl and I like to move my hands up and down his body while being intimate so I kept having to pull my hands away from his wrists.
Also, Duckie has very long arms and my body is just not long enough to reach all the way up his outstretched arms. That is if I want the downstairs action to continue, which I did, of course. All in all, the move lasted about three minutes before we tried something else.
But hey, at least we tried it? Any tips on how to make this move more do-able?
Love much,
Lavender
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